Editorial Standards

Evidence-aware, not evidence-decorated

We do not add statistics merely to sound authoritative. Claims that depend on research are linked to original or authoritative sources, and uncertainty is stated plainly.

Specific beats universal

Relationship advice changes with culture, age, disability, family structure and safety. We describe practices as options to test—not rules every person must follow.

Review and corrections

Every guide shows its review date. Material changes are reviewed for accuracy, internal links and safety framing. Corrections can be sent to editor@them.you.

Scope

Our articles are educational. They are not medical, mental-health or legal advice and do not establish a professional relationship with the reader.

Entity and language discipline

We define important concepts in plain English and distinguish a framework from a diagnosis. Editors check that headings answer the page's actual question, examples contain observable behavior, and terms are used consistently across related guides. We remove vague authority language when a specific explanation would serve the reader better.

Internal links and updates

Contextual links are selected because the next guide explains an adjacent skill or decision—not simply because two pages share a keyword. During review we check those links, canonical URLs, visible dates, citations and safety wording. Material corrections update the article and its review date.

Images and automated tools

Original editorial images may be created with assisted image-generation tools and then selected, cropped and reviewed by the publishing team. Automated tools may also help find broken links or structural errors. They do not replace editorial responsibility for the published wording, examples, safety framing or source choices.

Related information

Read our About THEM.YOU for the publication's educational purpose and limits.

Read our relationships and conflict library for where safety and accountability standards appear in practice.